Did you ever think about this? All of the commandments of God revolve around two things. First, Loving the Lord with all our heart, mind, body & spirit. Second, loving our neighbor as ourselves. Both the old and new testaments exhort the necessity of loving God above everything. This thought cannot be answered by strict obedience or awesome fear. A person can totally believe in God, and not love Him, much less love him more than everything else. It is obvious that God is looking for genuine love from His creation. Can a person be commanded to love another person? Parent's can command siblings to love each other, but that command seldom brings more than feigned love.
Only born again Christians learn to love God supremely. This is because they learn how much God loves them first and unconditionally.
One of the benefits of being born of God is the inheritance of the love of God. Stop! Listen to what I am saying. I do not refer here to God's love toward us, I am speaking of us having and exhibiting the same love towards others that God has for us.
" By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another." John 13:35.
In addition to being told to love our neighbors, brothers, sisters and even our enemies, we are told that the world will be drawn to the Lord as they witness Christians' love for each other. Even though Churches resort to a great variety of methods to attract and gain people, the Bible indicates clearly that the greatest thing that attracts people of the world, is our love for one another. So the big question is how can members of a Church learn to love each other? The first step is simple; love the Lord with all your hearts, souls, minds, bodies & spirits! Remember a person cannot love God, until they first know that God loves them. They cannot love others unless they are empowered by God's love. Think of Jesus' love for Judas or for Pilate or for the soldier that drove the spikes into his hands & feet. This is all proven by simply remembering what Jesus said on the cross, "Father forgive them for they know not what they do."
When we think of loving our brothers and sisters in Christ, we know the biggest barrier is our differences. We differ in personalities, we differ in customs, we differ in interests and we differ in opinions. A Church cannot survive if its members differ in doctrine or if they do not understand the commandment to love one another.
I can love someone but at the same time not love what they do. Even if a fellow Christian has fallen into grievous sin, I must still love them while despising their behaviour. I am obligated to tell them of my concern and offer to help deliver any way I can. I must pray for them and be ready to lift them up. I must be ready to forgive, especially when they ask forgiveness.
When all the members of a Church are scripturally correct, love the Lord and want to please the Lord then the fellowship will be sweet. They will have a unity that only the Lord can provide. The devil is the great divider being the author of confusion. If there are divisions within a Church then something is dreadfully wrong. All members must be responsible for their own duties. The Pastor, by the Word of God, has the last word in any conflict. If he is of God, he will love you unconditionally.
If he is of God you will love him unconditionally. If he is not of God, then you can only pray for him and pray that God will make necessary changes.
"And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him." 1John 4:16
If you are bitter toward a fellow Christian; you cannot do anything about him or her. You can only take care of yourself.